Me pēhea te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki i roto i ngā whanaungatanga
Ko te whakawhirinaki te tūāpapa o tētahi whanaungatanga—ahakoa he whakaipoipo, he marena, he hononga roa rānei. Ki te kore, ka ngāwari te kī o ngā whanaungatanga i te whakapae, te manukanuka, me te pakanga tonu. Ko te raruraru, kāore te whakawhirinaki e puta noa mai; ka hangaia mā te wheako, te auau, te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, me te wairua haumaru o te ngākau. Ko te rongo pai: ka taea te wikitoria i ngā take whakawhirinaki, ahakoa he maha ngā wā e hiahiatia ana te wā, te manawanui, me te whakapau kaha mai i ngā taha e rua.
Ka matapakihia e tēnei tuhinga ngā huarahi whai hua hei whakatika i ngā take whakawhirinaki i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, mai i te tautuhi i te pūtake o te raruraru ki te hanga anō i te wairua haumaru ngātahi.
1. Kia mārama tuatahi ki te pūtake o te raruraru whakawhirinaki
He maha ngā wā ka whakaarohia ngā take whakawhirinaki he take noa iho nā te "hoa tinihanga" me te "hoa tinihanga" rānei. Heoi anō, he whānui ake ngā pūtake. Ko ētahi o ngā mea e whakaohooho ana i te whakawhirinaki ko:
– Ngā wheako o mua: Mā te tinihanga i a koe (i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga o mua, i roto rānei i te whānau) ka nui ake te mataara me te whakapae o te tangata.
– Ngā rohe kāore i te mārama: Kāore ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakaae ki ngā mea e kiia ana he "noa" (hei tauira, te noho hoa ki tētahi hoa o mua, te huna i ngā kōrerorero, te haere pinepine rānei ki waho me te kore kōrero).
– Te kore whakawhitiwhiti kōrero: He maha ngā wā ka kī tonu te iti o ngā kōrero i ngā whakapae. Ka whakatupuhia e ngā whakapae kino te kore whakawhirinaki.
– Ngā whanonga rerekē: Ngā kupu whakaari e kore e tutuki i ngā wā katoa, ngā huringa nui o te waiaro, te tikanga rānei o te karo i ngā pātai.
– Ngā take whakaaro nui ki a ia anō me te manukanuka: Ka mataku te tangata kei whakarērea ia e te kore whakaaro pai, ā, ka māmā ake te whakapae, te whakahaere rānei.
Mā te mārama ki te pūtake o te raruraru, ka tika ake te otinga. Kāore e taea te whakahoki mai i te whakawhirinaki mā te "whakapāha" mā te "whakaae rānei kia kaua e mahi anō i te hara" mēnā kāore ngā mataku me ngā tauira whanaungatanga e arohia.
2. Aromatawai: i ahu mai te raruraru i ngā meka, i ngā wehi rānei?
He taahiraa nui ko te wehewehe i waenga i ngā taunakitanga tūturu me ngā āwangawanga i puta mai i te mamae/te whakaaroaro nui rawa.
Pātai atu ki a koe anō:
– He kaupapa tūturu kei reira e takahi ana i te herenga?
– Kei te āwangawanga noa iho rānei ahau nā ngā wheako o mua?
– He tauira teka kei te haere, he hē rānei te kōrero i waenganui i te kōrero, i te wā kotahi, i te wā e rua rānei?
Ehara tēnei i te whakapae i tētahi. Ko te whāinga kia kore ai te kōrero e huri hei pakanga whakapae. Mena he take pono te take (hei tauira, te hopukina e teka ana, e tinihanga ana rānei), me mārama te kawenga mō te whakaoranga. Mena he take nō te wehi, me whakapakari i te wairua haumaru me te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto.
3. Hangaia he whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pono, haumaru hoki
Ka tipu te whakawhirinaki mai i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pono me te pumau. Heoi, he maha ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e hinga ana nā te mea ka ārai te momo whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i te tangata kē. Whakamātauria ēnei mātāpono:
– Whakamahia te kupu “Kei te rongo ahau…” hei utu mō te kupu “kei te mau tonu koe…”
Tauira: He pai ake te kupu "I manukanuka ahau i tō ngaromanga atu, kāhore he kupu" i te kupu "Kāore koe e aro".
– Whakamāramahia ngā hiahia, kaua ngā tono
He pai ake te ahua o te kupu "Me rongo atu ahau i a koe mēnā ka hoki pō mai koe ki te kāinga" i te "Me whakautu wawe tonu koe."
– Kōwhiria te wā tika
Kaua ngā kōrero tairongo e tū ina ngenge tetahi o ngā taha, ina hohoro, ina kaha rawa rānei ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi.
– Whakaharatauhia te whakarongo kaha
Whakahuatia anō te kōrero a tō hoa: "Nō reira kei te kī koe kei te karo kōrua tetahi i tetahi nā te mea kei te wehi kōrua kei tautohetohe, tika?"
Mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero haumaru ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te kōrero pono, ahakoa mō ngā mea whakararuraru. Koinei te wāhi ka tīmata ai te hanga anō i te whakawhirinaki.
4. Hangaia ngā whakaaetanga me ngā rohe mārama
He maha ngā pakanga whakawhirinaki ka puta ake nā te mea kāore ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakaae ki ngā mea e whakaaetia ana, me ngā mea kāore e whakaaetia. Hei tauira:
– He mea noa te pupuri i ngā mea ngaro o te kōrerorero?
– He pai te tūtaki tahi me ngā hoa o te ira tangata kē?
– He pai tonu te whai hononga kaha ki tētahi hoa o mua?
– Kia pēhea te auau o tō ripoata i a koe e haereere ana?
Ehara ngā whakaaetanga hauora i te mea mō te mana whakahaere, engari mō te waihanga māramatanga. Mā te māramatanga ka whakaitihia ngā whakapae. I te wā e whakatakoto ana i ngā rohe, me whakarite:
– i whakaae ngā taha e rua,
– he mea tūturu, he mea ka taea hoki te mahi,
– he pānga kino mēnā ka takahia,
– ka taea te aromatawai i runga anō i ngā āhuatanga e huri haere ana.
5. Whakahokia te whakawhirinaki mā te pumau, kaua mā te kupu whakaari
Kāore e taea te whakahoki mai i te whakawhirinaki mā te kupu anake, engari mā ngā whanonga pumau. Mēnā kua takahia e tētahi rōpū tētahi herenga, ko te mea e hiahiatia ana ko:
– Te māramatanga whaitake
Ehara tēnei i te tikanga o te whakarērea o te tūmataitinga katoa, engari me te hiahia ki te whakamārama i ngā mea e tika ana hei whakahoki mai i te wairua haumaru.
– Te kawenga
Whakaaetia ngā hapa me te kore e whakapohehe i ngā mea, e whakapae rānei i tō hoa.
– Te huringa tūturu
Hei tauira, te whakaiti i te whanonga o te takaro pōhewa, te whakamutu i te huna i ngā mea, te ako rānei ki te whakahaere i te pakanga me te kore e oma.
– Te manawanui ki te anga atu ki te tukanga
He maha ngā wā e hiahia ana te hunga e whara ana ki te wā. Ko te whakaaro "I whakapāha mai ahau, he aha tātou i kōrero tonu ai?" ka whakararu i te whakaoranga.
Ko te pumau te reo tino kaha o te whakawhirinaki.
6. Whakahaerehia ngā patunga o te ngākau: ehara te muru hara i te wareware.
Ki te puta ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki nā te tinihanga, ka uaua ake te tukanga. Kāore te murunga hara e whakakore i te pānga, ā, kāore hoki e kīia ana me hoki anō ki te āhua o mua. Ko te mea nui ake ko te whakahaere i te mamae i roto i te huarahi hauora:
– Tukua koe kia pōuri, kia riri, kia ngākau pouri—me te kore e pahū, e mamae rānei.
– Kōrerohia te pānga o te tinihanga: he aha te mea i tino mamae ai koe?
– Kaua e whakaara ake i te take hei whakaeke; me whakaara ake kia mārama, kia whakatauhia hoki.
– Waihangahia he mahere ārai: he aha ngā āhuatanga me karo kia kore ai e puta anō?
He maha ngā wā ka āta haere te whakahokinga mai o te whakawhirinaki. I ētahi rā ka pai te āhua, i ētahi rā ka rite ki te hoki whakamuri. He mea noa tēnei mena ka ngana tonu ngā taha e rua.
7. Āta karohia ngā whanonga e whakakino ana i te whakawhirinakitanga.
Ina iti te whakawhirinaki, ka puta te hiahia ki te whakamātautau, ki te whakahaere rānei i tō hoa. Heoi anō, ka taea e ētahi mahi te whakararuraru i te āhuatanga, pērā i:
– te tirotiro puku i ngā waea pūkoro,
– te whakaoho i te hae kia "whakamātautau" ai te hoa i te aroha,
– te whakahaere i te maimoatanga wahangu mō te wā roa,
– te whakapae me te kore taunakitanga,
– te kī he hapa o mua te take o ngā raruraru katoa.
Ki te hiahia koe kia tipu te whakawhirinaki, arotahi ki ngā huarahi whai hua: te pātai tika, te whakarite whakaaetanga, me te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto.
8. Whakahou i te whanaungatanga me te wairua haumaru
E pā ana hoki te whakawhirinaki ki te piripono o ngā kare ā-roto. Ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e piripono ana ka nui ake te tuwhera o te whanaungatanga, ā, he iti ake te tūponotanga ki te teka. Ētahi huarahi hei hanga piripono:
– Whakapaua te wā kounga me te kore he mea hei whakararuraru i a koe e ngā taputapu.
– Whakamaua he tikanga ki te tirotiro i ngā kare ā-roto: “He aha te mea e ngenge ai koe i tēnei rā?”
– Whakaaturia ngā mahi iti o te whakawhetai i ia rā.
– Whakapai ake i tō momo whawhai: arotahi ki te raruraru, kaua ki te whakaeke i te āhua.
– Waihangahia he mahinga marino: te kai tahi, te whakakorikori tinana tahi, te inoi tahi, te mahi rānei kua whakaaetia.
Ehara i te mea ko te "kore kōrero teka" anake te pūtake o te wairua haumaru, engari ko te wheako anō hoki kei te aroaro, kei te manaaki hoki tō hoa.
9. Whakaarohia te āwhina ngaio mēnā ka raru koe.
Mena ka mau tonu ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki hei take mō te pakanga nui, ki te mea rānei he mamae nui, he tino āwhina te āwhina ngaio. Ka taea e te tohutohu mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, te whakaora takitahi rānei te āwhina:
– te mārama ki ngā tauira e auau tonu ana,
– te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto me te manukanuka,
– te hanga i tētahi whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora,
– te whakaora i te whanaungatanga i muri i te puremu, i te teka nui rānei.
Ehara te rapu āwhina i te tohu ngoikore, engari he tohu kawenga ki te whakatika i te whanaungatanga i te huarahi tika.
10. Āhea te wā hei pupuri, āhea te wā hei haere?
Kāore e taea, e tika rānei kia whakatikahia ngā take whakawhirinaki katoa. Whakaarohia anō te whanaungatanga mēnā:
– kei te teka tonu te hoa, ā, kāore e hiahia ki te huri i tana āhua,
– kei reira te tutu ā-hinengaro/ā-tinana,
– Kei te mataku tonu koe, kei te pouri, kei te ngaro hoki koe i roto i a koe anō,
– kāore he whakapau kaha e rua ngā taha ki te whakapai ake.
E hiahiatia ana he tokorua e hiahia ana ki te mahi tahi hei oranga mō tētahi whanaungatanga hauora. Kāore e taea te hanga whakawhirinaki ko koe anake.
Te Katinga
Ko te wikitoria i ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga he haerenga e hiahia ana ki te pono, te manawanui, me te mahi tahi. Tīmata mā te mārama ki te pūtake o te raruraru, te whakatū i tētahi whakawhitiwhiti kōrero haumaru, te whakatakoto i ngā rohe mārama, me te whakaatu i te huringa mā te pumau. He mamae te pakaru o te whakawhirinaki, engari kāore i te tohu i te mutunga i ngā wā katoa. Mā te whakapau kaha me ngā mahi tika, ka taea e te whanaungatanga te ora - he kaha ake, he pakeke ake i mua.
Ki te hiahia koe, ka taea e au te āwhina i a koe ki te waihanga i tētahi putanga motuhake ake o te tuhinga (hei tauira, mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua mārenatia, ngā whanaungatanga tawhiti, i muri rānei i tētahi moe tāne), ki te waihanga rānei i tētahi anga tohutohu mō ngā ihirangi rangitaki/SEO.
