Maitiro Ekutsigira Varwere Pamanzwiro
Rutsigiro rwepfungwa chikamu chakakosha chekutarisira varwere. Kuwedzera pamishonga, maitiro ekurapa, uye kurapwa, varwere vanodawo kunzwa vakachengeteka, vanonzwisisa, uye vane hushamwari pavanenge vachitarisana nematambudziko avo. Kurwara kunowanzosiya munhu achitya, achinetseka, akatsamwa, achisuruvara, kana kuti asina simba. Nokudaro, kugona kwemhuri, vanamukoti, vanozvipira, neshamwari dzepedyo kupa rutsigiro rwepfungwa kunogona kubatsira varwere kunzwa vakadzikama, vachibatsirana, uye vaine tariro yakawanda panguva yekurapwa.
Chinyorwa chino chinokurukura nzira dzinoshanda dzekutsigira varwere mupfungwa, vari kumba uye munzvimbo dzehutano, ukuwo tichiremekedza miganhu yemunhu nezvinodiwa nemunhu.
1. Nzwisisa kuti manzwiro emurwere akajairika.
Danho rekutanga nderekugamuchira kuti manzwiro emurwere haasi "akawandisa." Kutya kuongororwa kwechirwere, kunetseka nemitengo, kunetseka nezveramangwana, kana kusuruvara nekuda kwekurasikirwa nekushanda zvakanaka kwemuviri zvese imhinduro dzevanhu. Kana tikanzwisisa izvi, zviri nyore kuvapo pasina kutonga.
Dzivisa kutaura zvinoderedza zvakaita sekuti, “Usazvidya mwoyo nazvo,” “Unofanira kuva akasimba,” kana kuti “Vamwe vanhu vane dambudziko rakatoipisisa.” Kunyange zvazvo zvichiitirwa kusimbisa, kutaura kwakadaro kunogona kuita kuti murwere anzwe ari ega uye asina kunzwisiswa zvakanaka. Pane kudaro, shandisa nzira inobvuma manzwiro, yakaita sekuti: “Zvakajairika kunzwa kutya. Ndiri pano.”
2. Ivapo zvizere: kuteerera zvine kushingaira
Rutsigiro rwakasimba rwemanzwiro kazhinji harusi zano, asi kugona kuteerera. Kuteerera zvine simba zvinoreva kunyatsoteerera, kwete kupindira, uye kuratidza kuti unonzwisisa zvechokwadi.
Dzimwe nzira dziri nyore dzekuteerera zvine kushingaira:
– Tarisa murwere mumaziso zvine hunhu (usingamumanikidze kuti atarise kumashure).
– Gutsurira musoro wako kana kupa mhinduro pfupi dzakadai sekuti “hongu,” “Ndinonzwisisa.”
– Dzokorora pfungwa huru yezvakataurwa nemurwere kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti wanzwisisa: “Saka chinonyanya kukunetsa mhinduro dzebvunzo, handiti?”
– Mira. Dzimwe nguva varwere vanoda nguva yekunyora mazwi avo.
Dzimwe nguva varwere vanoda kutaura kwenguva refu, asi dzimwe nguva vanongoda kushamwaridzana navo vakanyarara. Zvese zviri zviviri zvine musoro. Chinhu chakakosha ndechekuti murwere asanzwe asisina basa.
3. Shandisa kutaurirana kunoratidza tsitsi uye kudzikamisa
Kunzwira tsitsi zvinoreva kuedza kunzwisisa manzwiro emurwere kubva pamaonero avo, kwete edu. Kutaurirana netsitsi kunogona kutanga nemitsara iri nyore, asi yakanangana, yakaita se:
- "Zvinoita sekunge nhasi zvichave zvakaoma, handiti."
– “Ndinogona kufungidzira kuti zvinokunetesa.”
– “Haufanire kutarisana neizvi uri wega.”
Iva nechokwadi chekuti inzwi rako rakapfava uye harikurumidzi. Kana varwere vachinzwa kutongwa, vanowanzo dzokera shure. Zvisinei, kana vachinzwa vakachengeteka, vanenge vakavhurika zvakanyanya, izvo zvakakosha pahutano hwavo hwepfungwa.
4. Bvunza zvinodiwa nemurwere, usafunge kuti
Havasi varwere vese vanoda zvinhu zvakafanana. Vamwe vanoda kuva nevamwe, vamwe vanoda nzvimbo yavo vega. Vamwe vanoda kuteererwa, nepo vamwe vachiona zviri nyore kuzvivhiringidza nekutaura zvinhu zvidiki.
Pane kufungidzira, bvunza zvakananga asi zvinyoro nyoro:
– “Unoda kutaura here, kana kuti unongoda kuperekedzwa?”
– “Kana ndikagara pano, wakasununguka here?”
- "Chii chandingaite kuti ndikubatsire zvakanyanya nhasi?"
Mibvunzo yakaita seiyi inoita kuti varwere vanzwe vakasununguka—chimwe chinhu chavanowanzorasikirwa nacho pavanenge vachirwara.
5. Ipa rubatsiro runoshanda senzira yekubatsira
Kutsigirana mupfungwa hakufanirwe kuva kwekutaura nguva dzose. Manzwiro madiki anoderedza mitoro yezuva nezuva anowanzoita kuti varwere vanzwe vachitarisirwa. Semuenzaniso:
- Ronga zvirongwa zvekuongororwa kana kuyeuchidza vanhu kuti vatore mishonga.
– Gadzirira chikafu zvichienderana nekurudziro yachiremba.
– Kuperekedza kuchipatara, kubatsira nekupa rubatsiro, kana kugadzirira magwaro.
- Chengetedza kuchena kwekamuri uye chengetedza nzvimbo yakasununguka.
Kana mutoro wekushanda wadzikira, varwere vanowana simba rakawanda rekutarisa pakupora uye kugadzikana kwepfungwa.
6. Remekedza kuvanzika kwemurwere uye chiremerera chake
Varwere vanowanzonzwa vasina dziviriro, kunyanya kana vachifanira kuvimba nevamwe. Saka, rutsigiro rwepfungwa runofanira kufambidzana nekuremekedza chiremera chavo.
Mimwe misimboti inokosha:
– Kumbira mvumo usati wabatsira panyaya dzako.
– Musaparadzira ruzivo rwezvekurapa pasina mvumo yemurwere.
– Dzivisa kutaura nezvemurwere sekunge haapo, kunyanya pamberi pevamwe vashandi vehutano kana nhengo dzemhuri.
– Rega murwere atore chikamu mukuita chero sarudzo dzinogoneka, zvisinei nekuti diki sei.
Kunzwa uchiremekedzwa kunogona kuderedza kushushikana uye kuwedzera kuvimba kwevarwere neavo vakavapoteredza.
7. Batsira varwere kugadzirisa kuzvidya mwoyo nepfungwa dzisina kunaka
Kurwara kunogona kukonzera "kufunga kwakaipa": kunzwa sekunge zvinhu zvese zvichatowedzera kuipa, kutya kuti hazvizove nani, kana kunzwa sekunge mutoro. Hatifanirwe kuva nyanzvi dzepfungwa kuti tibatsire, asi tinogona kubatsira varwere mukuderedza kuzvidya mwoyo.
Nzira dzekuzviita:
– Kurudzira murwere kuti atarisire matanho madiki: “Nhasi tichatanga takatarisana nekuzorora nekudya.”
– Kurovedza muviri zviri nyore kufema pamwe chete (fema zvishoma nezvishoma, bata kwechinguva, buritsa mweya zvishoma nezvishoma).
- Batsira varwere kuronga ruzivo—dzivisa kuverenga nhau kana ruzivo rwezvekurapa kubva kunzvimbo dzisina kujeka.
– Vakurudzire kuita mabasa akareruka zvichienderana nemamiriro avo ezvinhu: kuteerera mimhanzi, kuverenga, kunamata, kana kuona zvirongwa zvinonyaradza.
Chinhu chakakosha hachisi chekumanikidza kuti "gara uine mafungiro akanaka." Tanga waona manzwiro avo, wobva wavakurudzira zvishoma nezvishoma kuti vawane nzira chaiyo yekutaura.
8. Ramba uchitsigira murwere nguva dzose, kunyanya kana aneta.
Vanhu vazhinji vanotsigira varwere vari muchikamu chekutanga chekurwara kwavo, asi rutsigiro irworwo runowanzodzikira sezvo maitiro acho achienderera mberi. Zvisinei, kune zvirwere zvisingaperi kana kuti kupora kwenguva refu, kugara kwenguva refu kwakakosha.
Rutsigiro harufanirwe kugara rwuri rwendo rurefu. Mashoko anobva pamwoyo, maminetsi mashoma pafoni, kana kutoenda kunoongororwa kwenguva yakatarwa zvinogona kuita mutsauko mukuru. Varwere vachanzwa sekunge vachiri kufungwa nezvavo, kwete kungo "rangarirwa pakutanga."
9. Ziva zviratidzo zvinoratidza kuti murwere anoda rubatsiro rwenyanzvi.
Pane dzimwe nguva apo rutsigiro kubva kumhuri neshamwari haruna kukwana, kunyanya kana murwere achiratidza zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo zvakanyanya kana kuzvidya mwoyo. Chenjerera zviratidzo zvakaita se:
- Kusuruvara kwenguva refu, kushaya tariro, kana kurasikirwa nehanya nezvinhu zvaunowanzofarira.
- Kuomerwa nekurara nguva dzose kana kurara zvakanyanya.
- Kurega uye kuramba kutaurirana kwese.
– Kuratidza chishuwo chekurega kana kuzvikuvadza.
Kana zviratidzo izvi zvikaonekwa, batsira murwere kuwana rubatsiro rwenyanzvi dzakadai senyanzvi dzepfungwa, nyanzvi dzepfungwa, nyanzvi dzepfungwa, kana nzvimbo dzehutano hwepfungwa muchipatara. Kutumira murwere kune nyanzvi hakusi chiratidzo chekushaya simba, asi inzira yekurapa yakakomba uye yakakodzera.
10. Chengetedza hutano hwepfungwa hweshamwari yako
Kupa rutsigiro rwepfungwa kunogona kunetsa. Nhengo dzemhuri nevanotarisira varwere vanowanzosangana nekushushikana, kuzvidya mwoyo, uye kunyange kuneta mupfungwa. Kana vanotarisira varwere vakaneta, hunhu hwerutsigiro rwemurwere hunogona kudzikira.
Kuzvidzivirira:
- Goverana mabasa nevamwe vemhuri.
– Zorora usina mhosva.
- Goverana mutoro wako nemunhu waunovimba naye kana nharaunda yekutsigira.
- Ramba uchidya zvakakwana, uchirara zvakanaka, uye uchirovedza muviri.
Munhu anogara achigara naye achakwanisa kupa murwere nzvimbo yakachengeteka.
Penutup
Kupa rutsigiro rwepfungwa kuvarwere hakufanirwe kuve kwakaoma. Chinokosha ndechekuvapo netsitsi, kuteerera pasina kutonga, kuremekedza chiremerera chemurwere, uye kupa rubatsiro runoshanda sezvinodiwa. Murwere wega wega akasiyana, saka rutsigiro rwakanakisisa runogona kuchinja-chinja, kuva nemutsa, uye kugara uchienderera mberi.
Nerutsigiro rwakakodzera rwepfungwa, varwere havangonzwi "vachitarisirwa" chete, asiwo "vachiperekedzwa." Kunzwa uku kweushamwari kunowanzopa simba rekuwedzera kupfuura nemazuva akaoma uye kuramba uine tariro mukupora.
