Njira Zomvetsetsera ndi Kulamulira Maganizo
Maganizo ndi gawo lachilengedwe la zomwe anthu amakumana nazo. Tsiku lililonse, timakumana ndi chisangalalo, chisoni, mkwiyo, nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kapena kunyada—nthawi zambiri zimasinthasintha mofulumira kutengera momwe zinthu zilili. Komabe, anthu ambiri amaona malingaliro ngati “okhumudwitsa” kapena chinthu choyenera kuletsedwa. Ndipotu, malingaliro ndi zizindikiro: amatiuza zomwe zili zofunika, zomwe zikuopseza, zomwe tikufunikira, ndi malire omwe akuphwanyidwa. Vuto si kuchotsa malingaliro, koma kuwamvetsetsa ndikuwalamulira mwanjira yabwino.
Kumvetsetsa ndi kulamulira malingaliro ndi luso lomwe lingaphunzitsidwe. Limatithandiza kupanga zisankho zanzeru, kusunga ubale wolimba, komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino la maganizo. Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza njira zothandiza zodziwira malingaliro, kusanthula zomwe zimayambitsa, ndikupereka mayankho oyenera.
1. Kumvetsetsa ntchito ya malingaliro: malingaliro si mdani
Gawo loyamba ndikusintha momwe timaonera zinthu. Maganizo si zofooka, koma njira zosinthira. Mwachitsanzo, mantha amatithandiza kudzidziwitsa tokha za ngozi. Mkwiyo umasonyeza kusalungama kapena kuphwanya malire. Chisoni chimatitsogolera kupumula, kukonza zomwe zatayika, ndikupempha thandizo. Ngakhale kudzimva kuti ndife olakwa—mocheperapo—kungatithandize kukonza zolakwika ndikusunga ubale.
Mwa kumvetsetsa momwe malingaliro amagwirira ntchito, titha kuvomereza mosavuta kupezeka kwawo popanda kuchita mantha kapena kumva "molakwika" chifukwa chowamva. Kuvomereza kumeneku ndikofunikira chifukwa malingaliro opsinjika amabwereranso m'njira zina: kukwiya, khalidwe losakhazikika, kapena zizindikiro zakuthupi monga mutu ndi kupsinjika kwa minofu.
2. Wonjezerani kuzindikira za malingaliro
Anthu ambiri amavutika kulamulira malingaliro awo chifukwa sadziwa zomwe zikuchitikadi. Amangomva "osamasuka" kapena "achizungulire," osatha kuzindikira ngati ndi nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kukwiya, kapena mantha. Chifukwa chake, njira yotsatira ndiyo kuchita zinthu zozindikira malingaliro.
Yesani kupuma kangapo patsiku ndikudzifunsa kuti:
- "Ndikumva bwanji panopa?"
- "Ndi kuti m'thupi langa komwe ndimamva izi?"
- "Kodi mphamvu kuyambira 0 mpaka 10 ndi yamphamvu bwanji?"
Maganizo nthawi zambiri amaonekera ngati kumva zinthu zakuthupi: kupsinjika pachifuwa munthu akakhala ndi nkhawa, kulimba nsagwada munthu akakwiya, kapena m'mimba mulibe kanthu munthu akakhala wachisoni. Kugwirizanitsa malingaliro ndi kumva zinthu zakuthupi kumatithandiza kuzindikira zizindikiro msanga, zisanafike pachimake.
3. Kukulitsa mawu okhudza maganizo
Tikamatchula bwino momwe tikumvera, zimakhala zosavuta kuzilamulira. Mwachitsanzo, "Mkwiyo" ungatanthauze kukwiya, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa, kukwiya, kunyansidwa, kapena kumva ngati wosayamikiridwa. "Chisoni" chingatanthauze kukhumudwa, kusowa chiyembekezo, kusungulumwa, kutayika, kapena kumva ngati wolephera.
Yesani kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi osavuta: mukakumana ndi vuto, sankhani mawu omwe akufotokoza bwino momwe mukumvera. Ngati kuli kofunikira, lembani njira zingapo ndikuziyerekeza. Kutchula mayina moyenera kumathandiza ubongo kukonza zomwe zikuchitika ndikuchepetsa kuyankha. Zimathandizanso kuti zikhale zosavuta kufotokozera ena za vutoli popanda kudzudzula kapena kuphulika.
4. Dziwani zoyambitsa ndi machitidwe
Maganizo samachitika kawirikawiri popanda nkhani. Pali zinthu zina zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto (ndemanga ya wina, mkangano kuntchito, nkhani zoipa) ndi zinthu zina zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto mkati mwa munthu (kusowa tulo, njala, kutopa, ndi maganizo enaake). Kuzindikira momwe zinthu zimakhudzira munthu m'maganizo kungathandize kwambiri.
Gwiritsani ntchito buku la zochitika zomwe zili ndi mawonekedwe afupikitsa:
– Mkhalidwe: chachitika ndi chiyani?
– Maganizo okha: n’chiyani chimabwera m’maganizo mwanu?
– Maganizo: ndikumva chiyani (sikelo 0–10)?
- Yankho: ndichite chiyani?
- Zotsatira: kodi zotsatira zake ndi ziti?
Kuchokera pa izi, mungapeze njira: nkhawa imawonjezeka mukachedwa kuchita zinthu, mkwiyo umakwera mukamamva kuti simukukondedwa, kapena chisoni chimakula mukamatopa komanso muli nokha. Njira imeneyi imapereka njira yosinthira.
5. Njira zodzitonthoza mtima mukakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri
Kulamulira malingaliro sikutanthauza kuwachotsa, koma kuchepetsa mphamvu zawo kuti tithe kuganiza bwino. Maganizo akakwera kwambiri, thupi limayamba "kusamala". Chifukwa chake, njira zogwira mtima nthawi zambiri zimayang'ana thupi kaye.
Njira zina zomwe mungayesere:
– Kupuma pang'onopang'ono: Kokani mpweya kwa masekondi 4, gwirani kwa masekondi awiri, kokani mpweya kwa masekondi 6. Bwerezani nthawi 5-10.
– Kuyika pansi 5-4-3-2-1: tchulani zinthu 5 zomwe mungathe kuziona, zinthu 4 zomwe mungathe kuzimva, zinthu zitatu zomwe mungathe kuzimva, zinthu ziwiri zomwe mungathe kununkhiza, chinthu chimodzi chomwe mungathe kulawa pa lilime lanu.
- Kupumula minofu: kumangika kenako kumasula minofu ya mapewa, manja, nsagwada ndi pamphumi.
- Imani kaye musanayankhe: ngati mukufuna kuyankha uthenga mochokera mumtima, imani kaye kwa mphindi 10 kapena kuposerapo.
Njira zimenezi zimathandiza kuchepetsa "mafunde a maganizo" kuti mayankho anu asakhale opupuluma.
6. Kusamalira maganizo: malingaliro ovuta omwe amasokoneza malingaliro
Maganizo amakhudzidwa ndi kutanthauzira kwathu chochitika. Anthu awiri omwe ali mumkhalidwe womwewo akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana chifukwa amawamasulira mosiyana. Mwachitsanzo, bwana akapereka chiweruzo, munthu m'modzi amamva kuti akuopsezedwa, pomwe winayo amamva kuti akuthandizidwa.
Yesetsani kufunsa mafunso:
- "Kodi pali umboni wotani wosonyeza kuti maganizo anga ndi olondola?"
- "Kodi pali chifukwa china chilichonse?"
- "Ngati mnzanga wapamtima atakumana ndi izi, ndingamuuze chiyani?"
Kusintha maganizo anu sikutanthauza kunyalanyaza mavuto, koma kuchepetsa malingaliro olakwika monga kuganiza "konse kapena kopanda kanthu", "kuwerenga maganizo," kapena "kuopseza mopitirira muyeso." Maganizo abwino amalola malingaliro olamuliridwa bwino.
7. Kuwonetsa malingaliro m'njira yabwino
Maganizo amafunika njira yotulukira. Kupanda kutero, amaunjikana. Njira zabwino zotulukira zimakhala zosiyana kwa aliyense, koma mfundo yake ndi yofanana: sizimadzivulaza nokha kapena ena.
Njira zingapo zogawira:
- Kulemba: lembani zomwe mukumva popanda kuletsa kwa mphindi 10.
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi: kuyenda mwachangu, kukwera njinga, kapena kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pang'ono kumathandiza kuchepetsa kupsinjika kwa kagayidwe kachakudya m'thupi.
– Kulankhula ndi munthu wodalirika: yang'anani pa “Ndimamva…” osati “nthawi zonse…”.
- Zochita zolenga: kujambula, kuimba nyimbo, kuphika, kapena kusamalira zomera.
Chomwe chiyenera kupewedwa ndi malo opezera zinthu omwe amaoneka ngati “amapereka” mpumulo wakanthawi koma kwenikweni ndi owononga, monga kupsetsa ena mtima, kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, kapena kugula zinthu mopupuluma.
8. Kulankhulana molimba mtima komanso malire omveka bwino
Kukwiya kwambiri kumachitika chifukwa chakuti zosowa sizikwaniritsidwa kapena malire amaphwanyidwa mobwerezabwereza. Kudzidalira kumatanthauza kufotokoza zakukhosi ndi zosowa momveka bwino, popanda nkhanza.
Gwiritsani ntchito njira yosavuta:
– “Pamene (mkhalidwe) uchitika, ndimamva (maganizo), chifukwa ndikufunika (ndikufunika). Ndikuyembekezera (pempho lenileni).”
Chitsanzo: “Ndondomeko zikasintha mwadzidzidzi, ndimakhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa ndikufunika nthawi yoti ndisinthe. Ndikuyembekeza kulandira chenjezo la tsiku limodzi mtsogolo.” Chiganizo chamtunduwu chimachepetsa mkangano ndikuwonjezera mwayi woti anthu azindimvetsetsa.
9. Samalani maziko a malingaliro: kugona, kudya, ndi kamvekedwe ka moyo
Kulamulira malingaliro sikuti ndi luso la maganizo lokha. Kukhala ndi thanzi labwino kumakhudza kwambiri kukhazikika kwa malingaliro. Kusagona mokwanira kumatipangitsa kukhala omasuka, okwiya msanga, komanso kumavuta kuganizira kwambiri. Kudya zakudya zosakhazikika kumayambitsa kusintha kwa mphamvu zomwe zimawonjezera nkhawa. Kusayenda bwino kumapangitsa kuti kupsinjika maganizo kukhale kovuta.
Yambani ndi zinthu zosavuta:
- gona mokwanira komanso nthawi zonse,
- idyani nthawi zonse ndikupeza madzi okwanira,
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa mphindi 20-30 kangapo pa sabata,
- Chepetsani kumwa caffeine ngati mukuda nkhawa mosavuta.
Maziko amenewa amalimbitsa luso lathu logwiritsa ntchito njira zina.
10. Kodi ndi liti pamene mungafunike thandizo la akatswiri?
Pali nthawi zina zomwe malingaliro amakula kwambiri: chisoni cha nthawi yayitali, mantha obwerezabwereza, mkwiyo wosalamulirika, kapena malingaliro osokoneza ntchito, maubwenzi, ndi thanzi. Muzochitika zotere, kufunsa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena uphungu ndi njira yanzeru, osati chizindikiro cha kulephera. Chithandizo chingathandize kuzindikira njira zozama, kuvulala kwa machitidwe, ndikumanga luso lolimba lolamulira malingaliro.
Kutseka
Kumvetsetsa ndi kulamulira malingaliro ndi ulendo, osati ntchito ya kamodzi kokha. Njirayi imayamba ndi kulandira malingaliro ngati zizindikiro, kuchita zinthu mosamala, kutchula malingaliro enaake, kuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa, kutonthoza thupi, kukonza malingaliro, ndikuwongolera malingaliro m'njira zabwino. Tikachita nthawi zonse, timakhala olimba mtima kwambiri tikamavutika maganizo, timakhala bata m'mikangano, komanso timalumikizana kwambiri ndi ife eni. Pomaliza, malingaliro si chinthu choopedwa—ndiwo kampasi yomwe, ikamvetsetseka, imatithandiza kukhala ndi moyo wogwirizana komanso wopindulitsa.
