Zotsatira za maganizo a anthu osamukira kudziko lina
Kusamuka ndi chimodzi mwa zochitika pamoyo zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri umunthu wa munthu komanso ubwino wake. Kusamuka kuchokera kudera lina kupita ku lina—kaya kudutsa m'mizinda, m'maboma, kapena m'mayiko ena—nthawi zambiri kumamveka ngati njira yachuma komanso yachikhalidwe: kufunafuna ntchito, maphunziro, kapena chitetezo. Komabe, kupitirira mbali izi zooneka, kusamuka ndi chochitika chovuta chamaganizo. Kumakhudza momwe munthu amaonera yekha, kumva kuti ali otetezeka, kumanga ubale, ndi kutanthauzira tsogolo. Nkhaniyi ikuwunika momwe chidziwitso cha kusamuka chimakhudzira maganizo, zinthu zomwe zimachikhudza, ndi njira zosungira thanzi la maganizo panthawiyi.
Kusamuka monga kusintha kwa umunthu
Munthu akasamuka, amasiya osati malo ake okhala okha, komanso malo ochezera, miyambo, chilankhulo, chikhalidwe, ndi machitidwe a moyo omwe apanga umunthu wawo. Poyamba, anthu ambiri osamukira amakumana ndi "kudabwa ndi umunthu wawo": mafunso monga "Ndine ndani m'malo atsopanowa?" kapena "N'chiyani chimandipangitsa kukhala 'wokwanira' kuti ndigwirizane ndi ena?" amaonekera kwambiri. Izi zimaonekera makamaka kwa anthu osamukira omwe amasamukira kumadera omwe ali ndi makhalidwe osiyana kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, kuchokera kumidzi kupita mumzinda waukulu, kapena kuchokera kudziko lawo kupita kudziko lomwe lili ndi chikhalidwe chaumwini.
Kudziwika bwino komwe kudalipo kale kumatha kuoneka ngati kusokonezeka pakati pa makhalidwe akale ndi njira za moyo komanso zofunikira pakuzolowera malo atsopano. Izi sizimakhala zoyipa nthawi zonse. Kwa anthu ambiri, kusamuka kumatsegulanso mwayi wokukula: kudziwika kumakhala kosinthasintha, kolemera, komanso kozindikira kwambiri. Komabe, pamene zovuta zosinthira zili zazikulu kwambiri ndipo chithandizo cha anthu sichichepa, kusamvana pakati pa kudziwika kumatha kukhala kupsinjika kwa nthawi yayitali kapena kumva ngati munthu wataya njira.
Kupsinjika maganizo kwa chikhalidwe: zofunikira pakusinthasintha
Limodzi mwa mfundo zazikulu mu psychology ya kusamuka ndi kupsinjika maganizo komwe kumachitika nthawi zambiri, komwe kumachitika anthu akamayesa kuzolowera chikhalidwe chatsopano. Kupsinjika kumeneku kungachokere ku kusiyana kwa zilankhulo, malamulo osalembedwa a anthu, njira zolankhulirana, komanso ntchito za mabungwe monga masukulu, zipatala, kapena maofesi. Zolakwitsa zazing'ono mobwerezabwereza—monga kusamvetsetsa malangizo, kutanthauzira molakwika nthabwala, kapena kuonedwa ngati “wamwano” malinga ndi miyambo yakomweko—zingathe kuchepetsa kudzidalira.
Kupsinjika maganizo kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu kumakhudzidwanso ndi njira yosinthira yomwe yasankhidwa, mwachitsanzo:
1. Kugwirizana: kusiya chikhalidwe choyambirira kuti mutsatire kwathunthu chikhalidwe chatsopano.
2. Kuphatikizana: kusunga chikhalidwe choyambirira pamene mukulimbikitsa kutenga nawo mbali mu chikhalidwe chatsopano.
3. Kulekana: kukana miyambo yatsopano ndikungotsatira anthu oyamba okha.
4. Kupatula ena: kusamva ngati munthu ali ndi chikhalidwe choyambirira kapena chikhalidwe chatsopano.
Mwa zinthu zinayizi, kuphatikizana nthawi zambiri kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi zotsatira zabwino zamaganizo, chifukwa anthu amakhala ndi chidziwitso chodziwika bwino komanso mwayi wocheza ndi anthu m'malo awo atsopano. Komabe, kuphatikizana kopambana kumadalira kwambiri kutseguka kwa malo olandirira komanso kupezeka kwa malo otetezeka ofotokozera umunthu wawo woyambirira.
Kutaya ndi chisoni zomwe sizimaonekera nthawi zonse
Kusamuka nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa chisoni chapadera: kutayika kosamveka bwino. Munthu sangataye banja lake kwamuyaya, koma amaphonya kukhalapo kwawo, zochita zomwe amachita limodzi, mphindi zochepa, komanso kumva kuti ndi m'gulu la anthu ena. Kulakalaka kungagwirizane ndi kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa chifukwa chosiya okondedwa ake, makamaka kwa anthu osamukira omwe ndi ofunika kwambiri m'mabanja awo kapena omwe amachoka pazifukwa zachuma.
Kuphatikiza apo, anthu osamukira kudziko lina amatha kumva chisoni chifukwa cha malo awo: chakudya, fungo la mvula, chilankhulo, ngakhale momwe anansi amawalandirira. Zinthu zazing'onozi zimapangitsa kuti anthu azimva ngati "kwawo," ndipo akapita, kusungulumwa komwe kumakhala kovuta kufotokoza kumayamba. Chifukwa kusamuka nthawi zambiri kumaonedwa ngati chisankho "chomveka" kapena "chopatsa mwayi", chisoni nthawi zambiri sichimavomerezedwa. Chisoni chikapanda kupatsidwa mpata, malingaliro amatha kutsekedwa ndikuwonekera ngati kukwiya, dzanzi, kapena kusokonezeka kwa tulo.
Nkhawa, kuvutika maganizo, ndi mavuto azachuma
Mtolo wamaganizo wokhudza kusamuka nthawi zambiri umawonjezeka pamene ukugwirizana ndi zosowa zachuma. Anthu ambiri osamukira kudziko lina amakumana ndi mavuto kuntchito, maola ambiri, kusatsimikizika za udindo wawo mwalamulo, kapena kusiyana kwakukulu kwa magulu. Kukakamizidwa kuti "achite bwino" m'malo atsopano kungakhalenso chifukwa cha nkhawa: mabanja omwe ali kwawo angayembekezere kutumizidwa ndalama, pomwe anthu amamva kuti akukakamizidwa kutsimikizira kuti chisankho chawo chinali cholondola.
Muzochitika ngati izi, chiopsezo cha matenda amisala chimawonjezeka. Nkhawa imatha kuwonekera ngati nkhawa yochulukirapo, kupsinjika maganizo, kuvutika kuganizira, kapena mantha. Kuvutika maganizo kumatha kuwonekera ngati kutaya chidwi, kumva ngati wopanda pake, kutopa kosalekeza, kapena kudzimva ngati wopanda pake. Si anthu onse osamukira kudziko lina omwe amakumana ndi mavutowa, koma zinthu zoopsa monga kudzipatula, kusankhana, kuvutika maganizo asanasamuke, kapena kusatetezeka pokhala zitha kuwawonjezera.
Tsankho ndi kusatetezeka kwa anthu
Kukanidwa, kunyozedwa, kapena kunyalanyazidwa chifukwa cha komwe munthu anachokera, mtundu wa khungu lake, kalankhulidwe kake, chipembedzo chake, kapena udindo wake wosamukira kudziko lina kungakhale ndi zotsatirapo zazikulu. Tsankho si chinthu chakunja kokha; lingalowerere momwe munthu amaonera. Anthu osamukira kudziko lina angayambe kuletsa khalidwe lawo, kuopa kulankhula chifukwa cha kalankhulidwe kawo, kapena kukakamizidwa "kudziletsa" kuti asakhale chandamale cha anthu.
Kudzimva kukhala wosatetezeka pagulu nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kusamala kwambiri—maganizo osamala kwambiri pa ziwopsezo—zomwe zingakhale zotopetsa pamapeto pake. Kusankhana kumachitika mobwerezabwereza, anthu amatha kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse zomwe zimakhudza kugona bwino, thanzi labwino, komanso ubale wawo ndi anthu.
Zotsatira pa ubale wa m'banja ndi momwe zinthu zilili
Kusamuka kumasintha kapangidwe ka banja ndi maudindo. Anthu ena osamukira kudziko lina amayenda okha, kusiya akazi kapena ana; ena amasamuka limodzi koma ayenera kukambirananso maudindo awo. Mwachitsanzo, munthu amene anali wolemekezeka kwambiri m'dziko lawo chifukwa cha ntchito yake kapena udindo wake m'gulu angamve ngati "wamng'ono" pamalo awo atsopano. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, mkazi kapena mwana amene amazolowera mwachangu chilankhulo ndi chikhalidwe chake akhoza kukhala ngati "mlatho" wopita kudziko lakunja, kusintha mphamvu zomwe zili m'banjamo.
Mwa ana ndi achinyamata, kusamuka kungayambitse chisokonezo cha umunthu wawo komanso kusamvana pakati pa chikhalidwe cha kunyumba ndi kusukulu. Ngati makolo aika ana awo pachiwopsezo chachikulu kuti asunge chikhalidwe chawo cha kunyumba popanda kulola kukambirana, kusamvana kungakule. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, ngati ana akuona kuti makolo awo "asiyidwa" ndipo akuvutika kumvetsetsa mavuto a malo atsopano, mtunda wa maganizo ungakule.
Mbali yabwino: kulimba mtima, tanthauzo, ndi kukulitsa malingaliro
Ngakhale kuti pali mavuto, kusamuka kungathandizenso kukula kwa maganizo. Anthu ambiri osamukira kumayiko ena amakhala olimba mtima—kutha kupulumuka ndikuchira—kudzera mukukumana ndi kusatsimikizika, kuphunzira maluso atsopano, ndikumanganso malo ochezera. Kusamuka kungathenso kukulitsa malingaliro: anthu amakhala olekerera, osinthasintha, komanso okhoza kukhala ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana.
Kwa anthu ena, kupulumuka nthawi zovuta kumalimbitsa luso lawo ndi tanthauzo la moyo. Amapeza madera atsopano, mwayi watsopano, ndi njira zatsopano zomvetsetsa "kwathu" osati ngati malo okha, komanso ngati ubale ndi chitetezo chomwe chingamangidwe kulikonse.
Njira zosungira thanzi la maganizo panthawi yosamuka
Palibe njira imodzi yomwe ingagwire ntchito kwa aliyense, koma njira zotsatirazi zingathandize:
1. Pangani malo ochezera pang'onopang'ono
Yambani ndi malo osavuta: madera oyandikana nawo, malo olambirira, magulu ochita zosangalatsa, kapena madera osakhala anthu wamba. Maubwenzi ang'onoang'ono komanso ogwirizana nthawi zambiri amakhala othandiza kwambiri kuposa anthu ambiri omwe sadziwana kawirikawiri.
2. Pitirizani kuchita zinthu mwachizolowezi komanso "zolimbikitsa" zachikhalidwe
Kuphika zakudya zachikhalidwe, kumvetsera nyimbo zakwanu, kapena kukondwerera miyambo ina kungakupatseni mtendere wamumtima komanso chitetezo cham'maganizo.
3. Phunzirani chilankhulo ndi miyambo ya anthu popanda kudzitaya nokha.
Kuphunzira chilankhulo cha m'deralo kumawonjezera ufulu wodzilamulira komanso kumachepetsa nkhawa. Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti munthu asaone chikhalidwe cha kwawo ngati "chotchinga." Kugwirizana ndi anthu ena n'kwabwino kuposa kukana umunthu wake.
4. Tsimikizirani malingaliro a chisoni ndi kulakalaka
Kuvomereza kuti kusowa munthu ndi chinthu chachibadwa kungathandize kuchepetsa mavuto amisala. Kulemba nkhani, kugawana nkhani ndi anzanu, kapena kukonza nthawi yolankhulana ndi achibale kungathandize.
5. Fufuzani thandizo la akatswiri ngati zizindikiro zikupitirira
Ngati kusokonezeka kwa tulo, nkhawa, kapena chisoni chosatha chikusokoneza magwiridwe antchito a tsiku ndi tsiku, kufunsa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena uphungu kungakhale sitepe yofunika kwambiri. Ntchito zambiri tsopano zikupezeka pa intaneti.
Kutseka
Chidziwitso cha kusamuka ndi ulendo womwe umayesa ndi kupanga malingaliro a munthu. Umabweretsa kuthekera kotayika, kupsinjika maganizo, komanso kukakamizidwa ndi anthu, komanso umatsegula mwayi wokukula, kulimba mtima, komanso kukulitsa umunthu. Kumvetsetsa momwe kusamuka kumakhudzira maganizo kumatithandiza kuona kuti kusamuka bwino sikungokhudza ntchito kapena udindo, komanso thanzi labwino la maganizo komanso kumva kuti ndife ofunika. Chithandizo chochokera ku chilengedwe, anthu ammudzi, ndi mabanja, komanso mwayi wopeza chithandizo chamankhwala amisala, ndizofunikira kwambiri pakuwonetsetsa kuti kusamuka sikungosintha malo okha, komanso njira yomanga moyo wathunthu komanso wopindulitsa.
