Te Pānga Hinengaro o te Tauritekore o te Ira Tangata
Ko te kore taurite ira tangata he āhuatanga e rerekē ai te manaaki i tētahi, e herea ana ōna tika, e whakatauhia ana rānei he kore taurite nā te mea ko tōna tuakiri ira tangata anake. E kitea ana tēnei āhuatanga ehara i te mea i roto i ngā kaupapa here whakahāwea anake, engari i roto hoki i ngā mahi o ia rā: ngā wehewehenga tūranga pakari, ngā whakaaro whakahāwea mō "ngā mahi a ngā tāne" me "ngā mahi a ngā wāhine," ngā paerewa takirua o te matatika, me te whakaōrite i te tutu i runga i te ira tangata. Ka horapa atu tōna pānga ki tua atu i ngā ao pāpori me te ōhanga; he nui ngā pānga hinengaro o te kore taurite ira tangata ki ngā tāngata takitahi me ngā hapori. E tirohia ana e tēnei tuhinga te pānga o te kore taurite ira tangata ki te hauora hinengaro, ki ngā whanaungatanga tangata, me te whanaketanga hinengaro.
Te Tauritekore o te Ira Tangata hei Pūtake o te Ahotea Mau tonu
Ko tētahi o ngā pānga hinengaro tino kitea o te kore taurite o te ira tangata ko te ahotea mau tonu. Ina pāngia te tangata e te whakahāwea maha, te mahi kino rānei—hei tauira, te whakaititia i te mahi, te whai wāhi iti ki te mātauranga, te akiaki rānei ki te pikau i ngā kawenga o te kāinga me te kore tautoko—ka waiho te tinana me te hinengaro ki roto i te āhua "mataara" mō te wā roa. Ka taea e te ahotea tonu te whakaiti i te arotahi, te arahi ki te ngenge o te kare ā-roto, me te whakanui ake i te mōrearea o ngā mate manukanuka me te pouri.
Mō ngā wāhine, he maha ngā wā ka puta ake tēnei ahotea i te kawenga takirua: te pēhanga kia eke ki te taumata teitei i roto i te ao tūmatanui, me te tumanako anō kia tino tika i roto i ō rātou tūranga ā-whare. Mō ngā tāne, ka puta te ahotea i ngā pēhanga o te tāne tuku iho—hei tauira, te hiahia kia kaha, kia noho hei kaiwhiwhi matua, kia karo rānei i te whakaatu i ngā kare ā-roto. Nō reira, ka puta te ahotea hinengaro puta noa i ngā ira tangata nā te kore taurite o te ira tangata, ahakoa he rerekē ngā āhua.
Te Whakaute Iti ki a Ia Anō me te Whakahāwea Ira Tangata
Kāore te kore taurite o te ira tangata e mahi ana i waho anake, engari ka taea hoki te uru ki roto i te tirohanga a te tangata ki a ia anō. I roto i te hinengaro, he maha ngā wā e hono ana tēnei āhuatanga ki te "whakaurunga" o ngā uara pāpori me te whakama. Ina whiwhi tonu te tangata i ngā karere e kī ana he ngoikore ake tōna ira tangata, he iti ake tōna mana, he kore rānei e tika mō te kaiārahi, ka taea e aua karere te noho hei whakapono whaiaro.
Nā reira, ka puta te whakahāwea i a rātou anō, ngā kare ā-roto o te koretake, me te iti o te whakaaro ki a rātou anō. Hei tauira, ko ngā kōtiro kua whakaakona mai i te tamarikitanga ko te pāngarau, te pūtaiao rānei "ehara i te mea mā ngā kōtiro" ka whakawhanake i te wehi o te korenga e angitu, te karo i ngā wero, te whakaaro rānei kāore e tika ana kia whakataetaehia. Ko ngā tama tāne kua whakaakona ko te tangi he "tohu ngoikore" ka whakama pea ina pāngia rātou e te pouri, ā, ka mutu ka pehi i ō rātou kare ā-roto. I te wā roa, ka ārai tēnei whakaurunga ki roto i a rātou anō i te whanaketanga o te tangata, ā, ka hanga he whanaungatanga kino ki te tuakiri whaiaro.
Te Manukanuka, te Pouri, me ngā Mate Auautanga Mamae
E hono ana te kore taurite ira tangata me te pikinga ake o te mōrearea o ngā raruraru hauora hinengaro, inā koa ka haere tahi mai tēnei kore taurite me te tutu, te tukino rānei. Ko te tutu ira tangata—ahakoa he tinana, he moepuku, he hinengaro rānei—ka pāngia ngā kare ā-roto o te haumaru, te whakapono ki a ia anō, me te kaha ki te hanga whanaungatanga.
He maha ngā wā ka pāngia ngā tāngata e pāngia ana e te tutu, e te tukino rānei, e ngā tohu o te manukanuka, te pouri, ngā whakaeke mataku, ngā raruraru moe, tae atu ki te mate ahotea muri-trauma (PTSD). Tērā pea ka whakama rātou, ka mataku kei whakapaetia rātou, ka mataku rānei kei whakaponohia rātou. I roto i tētahi horopaki pāpori e whakatairanga tonu ana i te whakapae i te hunga i pāngia, ka whakanuia te taumahatanga hinengaro: ehara i te mea ka pāngia noa ngā tāngata e ngā huihuinga mamae engari ka pāngia hoki e te whakama me te mokemoke.
Heoi, he mea nui kia mōhiotia ko ngā take hauora hinengaro kāore e pā ana ki ngā tāngata i pāngia e te tutu anake. Ka taea e te taiao e whakamanawanui ana ki te whakahāwea ira tangata me te whakatoi te waihanga i te wairua mōrearea, inā koa i ngā wāhi tūmatanui me te wāhi mahi, ka pā ki te oranga hinengaro o te tini tāngata.
Te Pānga ki ngā Hononga Tangata me te Kounga o te Oranga
Ka whakatauira anō hoki te kore taurite o te ira tangata i te āhua o te taunekeneke a te tangata i roto i te whānau, te whakahoahoa, me ngā whanaungatanga aroha. Ina whakatūria e ngā tikanga ira tangata tētahi rōpū hei "kaiwhakatau" me tētahi hei "ārahi," ka ngāwari ngā whanaungatanga ki te kore taurite. Ka taea e tēnei kore taurite te whakaoho i te pakanga, te kore makona, me ngā kare ā-roto o te kore whakaute.
I roto i te whare, mā te wehewehenga koretake o ngā tūranga ka arahi pea ki te ngenge o te kare ā-roto—hei tauira, ina tukuna ngā mahi whare me te tiaki tamariki ki tētahi hoa, me te kore e mōhiotia. Ka taea e tēnei ngenge te huri hei riri, hei riri, hei ngaronga o te pai o te oranga. I tetahi atu taha, ko te hoa kua taunga ki te mana motuhake ka uaua pea ki te whakawhanake i te aroha, te kōrero ōrite, te aro atu rānei ki te whakakorenga, ka arahi ai ki te hekenga o te kounga o te whanaungatanga.
Te Taumahatanga Hinengaro me te "Mahi Kare ā-roto"
Ko te kupu "taumaha hinengaro" e whakamahia ana hei whakaahua i ngā kawenga ngaro o te whakahaere i tētahi whare me ngā matea kare ā-roto o tētahi whānau, pērā i te maumahara ki ngā wātaka, te whakamahere i ngā hiahia o te whare, te tiaki i te hauora o ngā tamariki, me te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga taurite. I roto i ngā ahurea maha, ka nui ake te taumaha o tēnei taumahatanga ki ngā wāhine, ahakoa kei te mahi anō hoki rātou i roto i te ao tūmatanui.
Ka pau te kaha hinengaro i te nui o te mahi hinengaro me te mahi kare ā-roto. Ka ngāwari te tangata ki te ngenge nui: he āhua ngenge kare ā-roto, he whakahawea, me te heke o te whai huatanga i roto i ngā mahi o ia rā. Kāore te ngenge nui e tino kitea i ngā wā katoa, engari ka taea e ia te whakaiti i te harikoa, te whakaoho i ngā kare ā-roto o te koretake, me te whakanui ake i ngā raruraru hauora tinana.
Te Tāne Paitini me ngā Ārai ki te Whakapuakitanga o ngā Kare ā-roto
Ka pāngia hoki ngā tāne e te kore taurite o te ira tangata mā te hanganga o te tāne paitini, te tikanga kia noho rangatira, kia pukuriri, kia ngoikore hoki ngā tāne. Ka ārai pea tēnei tikanga i te kaha o ngā tāne ki te mōhio me te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto i runga i te hauora. Nō reira, ka nui ake te tūponotanga o ētahi tāne ki te whakaputa i ō rātou ahotea mā te riri, te whanonga morearea, te whakamahi kino rānei i ngā matū.
Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnā, ko te pēhanga kia "pakari" tonu ka ārai i ngā tāne ki te rapu āwhina hinengaro ina pāngia rātou e te pouri, te manukanuka rānei. He maha ngā take o ngā mate hinengaro i roto i ngā tāne kāore i te rongoatia nā te whakama: ko te rapu āwhina he mea ngoikore. Ko te pānga o tēnā ko te pikinga ake o te mōrearea o ngā raruraru whanaungatanga, te tutu, me ngā raruraru hauora hinengaro kāore e arohia wawetia.
Pānga ki te Tipu o te Tamaiti me te Reanga e Whai Ake Nei
He nui te pānga o te kore taurite o te ira tangata ki te whanaketanga hinengaro o ngā tamariki. Ka ako ngā tamariki i ngā tūranga ira tangata mai i te whānau, te kura, ngā pāpāho, me ngā taiao pāpori. Mena ka herea ngā kōtiro i roto i ā rātou whiringa mō te tākaro, te ako, ngā wawata rānei, ka tipu ake rātou me te mataku ki te whakamātau. Mena ka āraia ngā tama tāne ki te whakaatu i te aroha me te aroha, ka tipu ake rātou me te uaua ki te whakahaere i ō rātou kare ā-roto.
Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnā, ko ngā tamariki e kite ana i te kore taurite, i te tutu ā-whare rānei, ka pāngia pea e te mamae, te manukanuka, me ngā mate whanonga. Tērā pea ka kite rātou i te kore taurite he "mea noa" ā, ka hoki anō ki ngā tauira ōrite i roto i ngā whanaungatanga pakeke. Nō reira, ehara te kore taurite ira tangata i te take takitahi anake, engari he tauira i tukuna iho i roto i ngā whakatipuranga.
Te Whakaora: He aha ngā Mea Ka Taea te Mahi?
Ko te whakaiti i te pānga hinengaro o te kore taurite ira tangata me whakapau kaha i ngā taumata maha. I te taumata takitahi, mā te whakawhanake i te māramatanga arohaehae ki ngā momo āhua ira tangata ka taea te āwhina i te tangata ki te wehewehe i tōna tuakiri mai i te whakawhāiti i ngā tapanga pāpori. He mea nui te tautoko pāpori haumaru—te whānau, ngā hoa, me te hapori—ki te whakaora hinengaro. Mena e tika ana, mā te tohutohu, te rongoā hinengaro rānei ka taea te āwhina i te tangata ki te tukatuka i te whara, te hanga whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, me te whakawhanake i ngā pūkenga kōrero hauora.
I te taumata whakahaere, mā ngā kaupapa here ārai-whakahāwea, ngā pūnaha pūrongo tūkino haumaru, te utu ōrite, te whakaaetanga mātua tika, me te urunga ōrite ki te mātauranga ka taea te whakaiti i ngā rerekētanga hanganga e whai wāhi ana ki te ahotea me te mamae. I taua wā, mā te mātauranga ira tangata pakari mai i te tamarikitanga ka taea te ako i ngā tamariki ki te aroha, te whakaute, te whakaae, me te tiritiri tūranga ōrite.
Te Katinga
Ehara i te mea noa iho te kore taurite o te ira tangata i te mea tūpono me ngā tatauranga; engari e pā ana ki ngā āhuatanga hohonu o te hinengaro tangata—he wairua haumaru, he whakaaro nui ki a ia anō, he tuakiri, me te kaha ki te aroha ki a ia anō me ētahi atu. Ka uru pea ki roto i ōna pānga te ahotea mau tonu, te manukanuka, te pouri, te whara, me ngā whanaungatanga kino. Hei tāpiri, ka whakawhāitihia e te kore taurite o te ira tangata te pūmanawa o te tangata mā te akiaki i te tangata ki ngā tūranga whaiti kāore i te rite tonu ki ō rātou hiahia hinengaro.
Ko te whakatutukitanga i te ōritetanga o te ira tangata ko te waihanga i tētahi wāhi hauora mō te katoa: he wāhi e taea ai e ia tangata te tupu me te kore e wehi i te whakahē, me te kore e herea e ngā momo whakaaro kino, me te kore hoki e pāngia e te tutu. Mā te whakaiti i te kore ōritetanga, ka hangaia e tātou ehara i te mea he hapori tika ake, engari he hapori whakaaro nui ake, he hapori atawhai ake hoki.
